Why don't I feel good enough, even when things are going well?
That nagging sense of not being enough isn't the truth about you. It's most likely a belief you learned early on, and have been carrying as your identity ever since.
Low self-esteem is often an old verdict your mind reached once, and never went back to check was still valid.
Achievements never quite seem to register, praise slides off, and criticism always sticks. Positive thinking rarely changes it, because the belief that you're not good enough sits below conscious awareness, however hard you consciously try to argue with it.
We don't lean on affirmations to bolster your confidence. We get curious about where the belief was first learned, and why it made sense to a younger version of you, because once that's understood, it can finally be updated rather than fought.
What happens over our four sessions?
I work within a structured programme of four sessions (usually weekly, where possible) because meaningful change rarely happens in a single appointment. Each session builds on the last, giving your mind and body time to settle, learn and change.
Your first session starts with a conversation. We'll take time to understand what's been happening, what you'd like to be different, and answer any questions you have about the process. I'll then guide you into hypnosis, a calm, inward-focused state, rather like daydreaming, but with a purpose. You remain aware and in control throughout. Many people tell me it's one of the most relaxing experiences they've had in a long time.
Each session is tailored to you and builds on your progress, combining conversation, hypnosis and practical tools where appropriate. You'll also receive personalised audio recordings to listen to between sessions, helping to reinforce the work we're doing together.
What people often notice
People arrive hoping to feel less critical. What tends to follow is a better understanding of what they need and why, connecting them back to who they are.
Is this the right approach for you?
If what you're experiencing feels more like ongoing low mood or anxiety alongside it, that's worth mentioning too, so we can make sure this is the right starting point for you.
Your free consultation is a chance to talk through what's been happening, and decide together whether this feels like the right approach for you.
Ready to rediscover yourself?
Start with a free, friendly chatMelissa is an HPD Level 4 Clinical Hypnotherapist, registered with the NCH, BSCH and CNHC, working with adults, children and teens in Harpenden, Hertfordshire, and online.